- How do we know when to take the car keys away from Dad?
- How do we know when Mom is not really on top of the family finances anymore?
- How do we know when it's time to give power of attorney over our affairs to our own kids?
There are reference books galore on how to gauge a child's developmental process, but not a one that I have discovered on timing the slippery slope into old age. This is because while our situations have a lot in common, the variables are ever so unique.
How do we know "when?" We don't know - not for sure.
ShaSha says ~
Do your best to talk honestly with those you love about sensitive issues as early in your adult years as you feel comfortable. Be bold in talking about strengths and weaknesses in a matter-of-fact way. Take the lead in opening up on topics often considered "private" or "we'll get around to it when the time is right" - finances, end of life desires. This goes in all directions: talk with your parents, talk with your children. Be a model of openness so that having this kind of discussion is a routine practice.
Beyond that?
You just have to trust your gut as well as your intellect.
Remember:
